Relationships

"To reap relationships we gotta sow in relationships, that includes time, heart n money"---Wendy


 This is wat i posted in fb this morning and it is always what i agree with. 

BGR: 

Couples need personal time,talk, intimacy, share etc. i jz shared a video in fb. the boy in that video was jz concentrating on his band and basketball, his own activities with his friends while asking his gf to go along. Yet both of them seldom hv their own personal time. Until the end, his gf couldn't stand it anymore. The story did not end here. the girl honest to him  and hv the boy take an immediate action by hugging her and sing a song to her.The girl is happy after the boy's actions. what is the conclusion here? couple need personal QUALITY time for themselves and with little efforts, can already make a good bonding bridge for the relationship. 
Here i hv extra point for the man...






Family:

many ppl though that no need 2put any effort in building the relationship. They are wrong. Yes,we are family and no matter how far we are apart from each other, the relationship is still there. Yet, we still hv to make an effort bcoz of love. We still need to call back to concern the family members who r still in hometown, we still hv to go back once a while..u will said this is wat we normally do r..ya, u r right. other than tat? send cards, send presents, send msg, send email, surprise? Have u hear b4 tat there are 2 "gangs" in a family? IT can happen when we lack of communication. For instance, you keep calling ur bro and seldom call ur sis, slowly u will realize tat u knw more abt ur bro's current situation/activities rather than knwin ur sis's one. After that u will realize when u call ur sis, both of u v not much to talk and sometime even getting easier to quarrel wit each other due to the "strange-ness" ....if u think tat, u r growing up and you hv ur own life.u hv no time 2 care for the "born" family, somemore ur parents can take care of themselves etc..change this mindset.even though they can and all ur siblings are growing up, hving own life journey, u still hv to stick wit them.coz u guys are 1 family still. 

Friends:

     I realized there will be different responses  back to me when i said "long time no c, i miss you" to different grps of ppl.In class, they will thought i was bluffing to them and they thought i was playing with them. why? coz in their mindset, this can only happen in btw BGR not friends. Still, none talk to them with this. In church/ Christian friend, they will accept it coz it is not strange to them anymore. but from here, it hv another 2 groups of ppl. one grp of ppl, they accept it and treat it as, "u shld say this to me"; another 1 is ,"thx, i appreciate it so much and i treat u like my best bro/sis". Can u see the clear pic here? 




   Not many ppl knw/understand of sowing in the friendship and it is nt a easy process. "Not many ppl" here including Christian. We are all ordinary person,non of us r perfect of course. but how many are willing to learn ths? Some ppl is willing to sow in the relationship but another party not willing/ nvr though of sowing in tat relationship.Let's look at the below example :


  " A and B met and both bcame friends. Both treat each other very well. A care for this friendship very much and A thinking ways to build this friendship. A spent time, money and effort in this friendship. B accepted but B nvr thought of the real purpose why A did all these. B jz think that it is jz an entertainments, activities etc. B never knw abt the real meaning behind.Slowly,  both of their relationship jz maintain at the stage and cant move on to best friend stage.A realized the move yet B couldn't."

  In a relationship, it need both parties to work together and sow together. It is tired if jz 1 party do everything and if B dont 1 2 maintain the relationship.  Honestly, I have 5 good friends in Kampar. I care for them and care for the friendship. I wish and thinking of many ways to build up the bridge for all of us in order to strengthen this friendship. It was good in the beginning stage but slowly it doesn't goes in the way i expected. I donno what are they thinking now actually.are they having the same thought as what i hv? are they treated me the way as i treated them? best friends? friends that worth to be with? or they jz treated me as friend? Have they think of the way to make the friendship stronger? I donno. Sometime when i trying to build the relationship, sure sum 1 will think too much..may be they tot of BGR will going to happened? May be i'm open minded than them in some aspect and i grew up in the "American style" atmosphere. sometime i felt tired and disappointed when the in return is misunderstanding or zero response from them. sometime feel happy when we go out together even is jz simple dinner,yamcha or anything else, coz i will treat it as they hv the will to build the relationship as well....May b I'm the 1 who staying apart from them and i'm going to graduate soon, so they are not going to emphasize the relationship wit me..when i knw/ look at them hving gathering, yam cha ,chit chat together without me,i was sad honestly. i feel like i was the only one who treat them as my bets friends..and slowly, i found that i couldn't fit in them couple of times. It is like a knife cutting my flesh especially when i knw their trust in me is getting lesser.  i was thinking will this happen to me if i stay nearby them? i wish that i can stay closer to them to see the result honestly.  I wish to knw what they r thinking now. I wish to knwo who i am in their view. This is why i said is everyone sow in the relationship, not "one man show". That one man is so pitiful if it happen.


I love the pic and words below...

    Friends, no matter what relationship you r hving now...learn 2 put effort in together.. dont let the other party keep on working for it only..or else, if u r the 1 who keep working on, is time to think is the relationship worth for u to work on? are they appreciate ur presence? Are they the one who always stay beside you and support you? are they hv trust in you? if no trust in both of you, dont put any hope /effort in already..bcoz they will never work with u. while telling you guys, i'm also telling and reminding myself....